BDSM in India – the explored yet unexplored world

BDSM in India – the explored yet unexplored world of mutual trust, respect, and believe

BDSM is the short form used for various sexual practice initials. BDSM consists of the following aspects, bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. BDSM is not actually sex, it consists of all the activity including sex that offers pleasure to the partner.

These activities are included in foreplay which leads to sex. Most of the practices that are practiced by lovers in BDSM are performed with mutual consent.

It is important to have consent while following BDSM as it carries a variety of acts that involve varying degrees of physical restraints, pain, and servitude. Some of the BDSM is spanking, putting a dog chain around the partner’s neck, making them crawl, and tying the lover up with rope.

BDSM as a term was first used in a Usenet post from 1991 which was used for a combination of abbreviations B/D, D/S, and S/M.

BDSM community welcomes anyone with a non-normative streak including body modification enthusiasts, animal role-players, cross-dressers, rubber fetishists, and others. The activity and relationship in BDSM are carried with consent as they involve inequality of power.

BDSM Consent

Having consent from both partners for indulging in the activity is common practice. This informed consent between the individuals is known as SSC or RACK. SSC stands for Safe Sane and Consensual, while RACK stands for Risk-aware Consensual Kink.

With consent, both individuals can indulge in activities that can be painful yet pleasurers. While agreeing to the consent you need to consider some of the main points.

Understand the consent

It is necessary to understand the consent and communicate with your partner. You need to understand what the other person is saying and what you expect from the activity.

Speak out honestly

Both individuals should speak their heart out about what they expect and what are their desires, not only this they should also talk about the boundaries that need to be followed.

However, other than just making the consent both individuals might have to undergo pain and physical restraint which is why it is necessary to finalize some safe words.

Safe Words in BDSM

Having safe words is necessary as while the partner undergoes some pain they can use these words to stop everything until the situation is normalized or resolved.

These words that individuals will choose should be unrelated to sex and both individuals should agree on hearing or speaking the chosen safe word.

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Some of the easiest safe words used are mentioned below. If someone gets confused on which word should be chosen, then they can simply refer to these universal words used in BDSM.

Traffic Light System

The traffic light system or the colors are the most common safe words used to communicate the exact feeling while indulging in the BDSM act.

Red: Red color is usually used for signs of danger or for stops in the traffic signals. Saying red will convey the message that you wish to stop immediately.The word should be used when you are not comfortable or when things are getting more painful than you can bear.

Yellow: This is the sign which you want to convey that your partner might be going in the wrong direction or doing a little too much which is against the consent. By just saying the word your partner will understand and change the current action.

Green: This is the color that you can use to indicate to your partner that you like what they are doing and you feel comfortable.

Other than just using the safe words there are a few terms that you should also understand before indulging in BDSM activities.

Below we have shared two of the most common terminologies that are used in BDSM. Read these as you might need to give your consent on the role you will play.

Dominant

It is important to understand the role before giving consent. The person playing the dominant role has the authority to do most of the things which a submissive cannot.

The dominant mostly chooses the things to use while the activity to reach the orgasm of both. In other words, dominant is also referred to as top.

In most cases, the dominant takes charge, while the bottom or the submissive partner can also become the dominant by demanding to perform certain acts or by switching roles.

Submissive

Submissiveness is not just giving the body to the dominant partner, but it is more about trust, and respect that one has. The submissive partner will witness the variety of pain and physical restraint that can lead to pleasure.

However, it is important to maintain the balance between pleasure and pain. If the submissive partner experiences pain more than expected, then they can simply use the safe words to stop the activity immediately and clear out things as per expectations.

Bondage toys demand has seen a huge rise in the past few years. However, it is not recommended to use toys for the first few times. Instead of toys beginners can start with basic sensory deprivation.

The reason why one should not use toys, in the beginning, is because getting accustomed to the role takes time and with regular practicing the activity, one will get used to it. Once reached a certain point, then only it is recommended to use the toys.

In place of toys, the submissive can start with experiencing bondage. The sensory deprivation that is one of the most important props of bondage will make it easy for beginners while practicing BDSM.

Conclusion

In the past, BDSM has been in trends and most people try to follow the trend. BDSM activity can be both harmful and pleasurous. It all depends on how you are performing it and how well you know the consent and your partner.

It is very important to have the consent of the partner. While taking the consent find the safe words to assure that BDSM is not punishment but an activity that is meant to bring two bodies closer to each other.

If following the trend someone tries BDSM and does not understand the harm, then this can turn into showing the negative picture about the activity.

Follow the trends only if you feel it will be a pleasure to you. For the sake of trying can get you in huge trouble and bruises.

Before indulging in the activity decide who will be dominant and who will be submissive. Both partners should have experience of the roles so try switching roles to have better experience.

Ankit Kumar Sharmahttp://marketingrise.co/
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